Embark on a thought-provoking journey with Katherine Hampsten as she unravels the intricacies of human communication in her enlightening talk, ‘How Miscommunication Happens (and How to Avoid It).’ In this engaging listening activity, we delve into the common pitfalls of conveying our thoughts and ideas, exploring the challenges that often lead to confusion, misunderstandings, and sometimes, even costly errors. As we navigate through the complexities of the communication process, Hampsten introduces us to the transactional model, offering valuable insights into the dynamic nature of exchanging messages. Join us in this exploration of the fundamental factors influencing our ability to connect with others and discover practical strategies to enhance our communication skills.
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(00:00) Have you ever talked with a friend
about a problem only to realize that he just doesn’t seem to grasp
why the issue is so important to you? Have you ever presented an idea to
a group and it’s met with utter confusion? Or maybe you’ve been in an argument when the other person suddenly accuses you of not listening
to what they’re saying at all?
(00:22) What’s going on here? The answer is miscommunication, and in some form or another, we’ve all experienced it. It can lead to confusion, animosity, misunderstanding, or even crashing a multimillion
dollar probe into the surface of Mars. The fact is even when face-to-face
with another person, in the very same room,
(00:44) and speaking the same language, human communication is incredibly complex. But the good news is
that a basic understanding of what happens when we communicate can help us prevent miscommunication. For decades, researchers have asked,
“What happens when we communicate?” One interpretation,
called the transmission model,
(01:04) views communication as a message that
moves directly from one person to another, similar to someone tossing a ball
and walking away. But in reality, this simplistic model doesn’t account
for communication’s complexity. Enter the transactional model, which acknowledges the many
added challenges of communicating.
(01:22) With this model, it’s more accurate
to think of communication between people as a game of catch. As we communicate our message,
we receive feedback from the other party. Through the transaction,
we create meaning together. But from this exchange,
further complications arise. It’s not like the Star Trek universe,
(01:43) where some characters
can Vulcan mind meld, fully sharing thoughts and feelings. As humans, we can’t help but send
and receive messages through our own subjective lenses. When communicating, one person expresses
her interpretation of a message, and the person she’s communicating with hears his own interpretation
of that message.
(02:01) Our perceptual filters continually shift
meanings and interpretations. Remember that game of catch? Imagine it with a lump of clay. As each person touches it, they shape it to fit
their own unique perceptions based on any number of variables, like knowledge or past experience,
age, race, gender, ethnicity, religion, or family background.
(02:25) Simultaneously, every person interprets
the message they receive based on their relationship
with the other person, and their unique understanding of the semantics and connotations
of the exact words being used. They could also be distracted
by other stimuli, such as traffic or a growling stomach.
(02:45) Even emotion might cloud
their understanding, and by adding more people
into a conversation, each with their own subjectivities, the complexity of communication
grows exponentially. So as the lump of clay goes back and forth
from one person to another, reworked, reshaped, and always changing, it’s no wonder our messages sometimes
turn into a mush of miscommunication.
(03:06) But, luckily, there are some
simple practices that can help us all navigate our daily
interactions for better communication. One: recognize that passive hearing
and active listening are not the same. Engage actively with the verbal
and nonverbal feedback of others, and adjust your message to facilitate
greater understanding.
(03:28) Two: listen with your eyes and ears,
as well as with your gut. Remember that communication
is more than just words. Three: take time to understand as you try
to be understood. In the rush to express ourselves, it’s easy to forget that communication
is a two-way street. Be open to what
the other person might say.
(03:50) And finally, four: Be aware of your personal
perceptual filters. Elements of your experience, including your culture,
community, and family, influence how you see the world. Say, “This is how I see the problem,
but how do you see it?” Don’t assume that your perception
is the objective truth. That’ll help you work toward sharing
a dialogue with others
(04:11) to reach a common understanding together.
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As we conclude this enlightening listening activity guided by Katherine Hampsten, the echoes of the transactional model linger in our minds, reshaping the way we perceive communication. Miscommunication, a universal experience, finds its antidote in active listening, awareness of nonverbal cues, and a genuine openness to understanding diverse perspectives. In the complex game of catch that is human interaction, we carry with us the wisdom to navigate the challenges, acknowledging the subjectivity inherent in our perceptions. Let us embrace the tools provided and strive to create a more connected world where dialogue prevails over miscommunication. The keyword, ‘listening,’ resonates throughout, reminding us of the pivotal role attentive listening plays in fostering meaningful communication.
